25 Mindsets that will Make Any Personal Development Plan FAILS

Personal Development Plan Fails
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Everyone has their own dreams. Some will start to search and develop a personal development plan to reach it. The others may find it hard to even start one. Even if you already have one, there is still a good chance it will fail.

Personal Development Plan Fails

Based on my experience and conducting some researches, I’ve found 25 mindset traps that will hinder everyone to achieve the success goal.

Do you fall into one of these mindset traps? Let’s find out by start reading :) (Click on the next numbered page below the ‘You May Like This’ Post to continue)

Alexander Blue

A writer, gamer, book lover, music addict, and a dreamer. My life motto is 'Every thousand mile begins with a single step'. I like to share helpful information with others because the positive feeling is contagious and it will make everyone's life better.

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48 Comments

  1. Darren

    comfort zone mindset is by far the hardest to evict. But I think for many people its have a legitimate reason to do something and change their situation.

    Many women will quit smoking cigarettes when they get pregnant despite them saying that they would never be able to do it. Some fathers will step up and work 100 hours a week to support twins even if they’ve never worked a day in their life.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Wow thanks for sharing your opinion. Yes, negative mindsets can hinder our success. It’s up to ourselves to take courage and change to be better.

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  2. lilywong

    A person who is satisfied where they are now has a serene, peaceful vibe about them – they are in a restful state, and while they are not looking for anything else at that moment, their bodies and minds are ready for the next challenge in life, if they so choose it.

    A person who is complacent has a low energy vibe about them – he or she seemed to have given up on life and is apathetic.

    I like the other points you highlighted as well and your article has inspried me to hone better mindsets for greater success in my life. Thank you!

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Lil, thanks for sharing your opinion. Glad the article is helpful to you :)

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  3. Jagi

    There are many people who can’t see past their comfort zone. Their growth ends there, which is really sad because they miss out on all the fun of life.

    At one time my mindset was also lacking so much in my life, as my children grew older they were also learning this. That’s when I realized I have to change the way I think.

    Which you have year is very thorough, I really enjoyed reading it, made me think of other places I can make change in life.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Jagi, thank you for sharing your opinion :) Yeah, comfort zone is hard to resist, but we can overcome it if we have a great goal in mind to let it go.

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  4. Steven

    I used to have the comfort zone mindset for many years and didn’t progress to anything if anything I got looked over many times until the inner fighter come out in me.

    Now I see what I want and go and get it, in the last five years anything I have set out to do I have achieved and will not stop until I finish my personal mission.

    Without blowing my own trumpet my work ethic is sickening now, this does come with consequence my personal relationship with people sometimes suffers.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Steven, glad you’ve overcome your comfort zone. I wish you success then :)

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  5. Rob

    This is a really interesting approach to personal development. While so many resources will tell you a few steps to follow, they often leave out things to avoid. If you have the wrong mindset, it’ll be very difficult to find success when you hit a setback. I like that a lot of these mindsets stress that you need to keep a steady workflow for extended amounts of times. Too often people burn themselves out, expecting overnight results.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Yes Rob, we need to know both the ‘positive’ (what to follow) and the ‘negative’ (what to avoid) in order to succeed in anything. Personal development plan is not an exemption.When we failed to do something, it maybe not because we were wrong to follow the plan, but caused by the wrong mindsets that we should avoid. Thanks for sharing your opinion :)

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  6. braxa0103@gmail.com

    This was unique.

    There are hundreds of posts out there that teach people about the mindsets needed to succeed in business as an entrepreneur. The problem with a lot of this material is that people aren’t sure about the mindsets, strategies and tactics that could result in them failing to achieve their goals.

    We often like to ignore anything that makes us think about the pain associated with the actions that we are about to take but this post will prove to be a real asset to anyone who can be bothered to read it in it’s entirety.

    Great stuff.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Braxa, thank you for reading. Yes, I think we should give a different direction when giving information about what you need to do to achieve success. One of them is drawing inspirations from other people’s life journey (you can see the people inspiration category in the top menu), and the other is approaching from negative side, like this article.

      I hope this article is useful to you and many people out there who seeks to success :) Thank you.

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  7. Ian

    This would be a good post to print out and look at every day to keep oneself focused.

    However, I noticed you have page numbers at the bottom so would I need to print out each page separately?

    I love the quotes as well. You could also name your list, “The List of Excuses we like to tell ourselves”

    Good work. Keep it up.

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      HI Ian, thank you :) Actually I separate the post into several pages to keep it shorter, but I will consider to remove the pagination.

      Good name you have there. The list of excuses we like to tell ourselves. This should be a good idea for my future topic :) Thanks Ian.

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  8. Paul

    You have a lot of good points here. I particularly like what you said about pursuing goals incrementally so as to not feeling overwhelmed, as well as what you said about distinguishing between ‘passion and interest.’
    I’ve always thought of passion as something that you’re willing to suffer for. A good way to measure it would be to ask yourself what you’re willing to give up in order to have your goal. Would you agree?

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Paul, thanks for the reading. I agree with you. When chasing your passion, there will be a lot of things to stuck and hinder you, but the end result will be super amazing :)

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  9. Holly

    I have already left a comment for this article but as I flagged it, I started reading it again today. It is such a great post and I think everyone can learn something by reading through all the 25 points. It is true we all have various reasons why we fail and give up on our aspirations. By identifying and acknowledging them it can make such a huge difference to our success rate. What are your dreams may I ask – just out of curiosity :-)

    Holly

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    1. Alexander Blue (Post author)

      Hi Holly :) Thanks for visiting again. Yes, I noticed that many other readers have shared different mindsets that hinder them from reaching their goals. As long as you don’t quit, I believe we will eventually reach our goal.

      Well, one of my dreams is to travel around the world and met some inspiring people, get a look of their lives with my own two eyes, and make those experiences into some inspirational books. There are many other dreams, but this is one that I think relevant to why I started this website. Thanks for asking and I will look forward to your next visit :)

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  10. Jessica

    I really liked your post and how detailed and thorough you were with it. I was once in the complacent mindset and then one day it was like a light bulb went off and suddenly I was angry and passionate about not wanting to be stuck in the life I am in now. I want to travel and explore the world and not just pay bills until I die. Yes I do want to make money, but I want life experiences more. I feel like I am missing out on something because I am always consumed with worry about having money for the bills I need to pay. That is what drives me to a better life.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Jessica. Thanks for your sharing :) Every people seems have different stories about what made them fail on the road to success. It is a good thing to share your thought about what drives you for having a better life. I recommend you to read this article too about following your heart. Thanks :)

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  11. bioelectrobot

    Getting started is definitely the largest obstacle and hardest part for me. However, it must be done and sometimes you just have to push forward knowing the goal will never be reached without a starting point. I like your article and the 25 suggestions. You’ve thought this out very well. Great thoughts on the “not-so-obvious goal”. It’s easy to lose sight of what’s really important and what we really want. Complacency, indeed, will destroy our ability to achieve a better life. Thanks for the motivation. I just did 10 push ups and 10 sit ups. I feel great! You have a very positive attitude. Thanks so much for sharing the positive energy.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Bio, thanks for taking time to read the whole article. Complacency and comfort zone (when actually it isn’t) are two things that really stay in our way to achieve a better life. Glad to hear you felt inspired and motivated :)

      Positive attitude is contagious, so I try to share as many inspiring articles here as many as possible. Surround yourself with positivity, and you will have a great boost to achieve your success.

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  12. John Rico

    I think starting a personal development plan is hard for me. It is because I need to consider evaluating myself and look what characteristics should I keep to develop myself. But it is just recent that I realized that I really need to do this if I want to be successful in life. By the way, what’s the best recommendation that you can give me to further continue my development?

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi John. Working for a personal development have never been easy. I have experience some failures too in the past. So, that’s why I took some time for a research why we can fail with our personal development plan.

      I suggest you check whether you fall between some of the mindsets above. Also, I urge you to have a good reason that have a long-term impact why you want to develop yourself. For example there is a person with anorexia problem that start shaping his body because he wants to prove other that he can change, enter bodybuilding competition, and give inspiration to other people with the same problem.

      One other thing, try to ‘listen’ to your heart. What do you really want in the future? How can you achieve it? What part of your self that need to be developed to achieve it? You may want to read this article about following your heart.

      I wish you success with your personal development :)

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  13. Marcus

    I’m sure the comfort zone is a big one for a lot of people. It certainly can be for me. I think the thing is, people tend to find change painful. So that means that unless not changing is more painful than changing, people don’t tend to change. Even if someone’s life is not that great, they would often stick with that rather than make the extra effort to do something to change their life.

    Years ago I had a health crisis, and this forced me to change my lifestyle. Many people put up with average health because improving their lifestyle is just too much effort.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Marcus, I agree with you that most people fall into the comfort zone trap (although my biggest pitfall lies on the procrastination). Change can be painful, so we need to realize that in the end, the change will give us a better result and enjoyment compared to when we stick in the comfort zone.

      Thanks for sharing your experience :) It’s a good thing that you now have a healthy lifestyle.

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  14. Holly

    Some great points you make – definitely food for thought. I am a big advocate of self/personal development and agree with all of what you say. It is important to be reminded of the various obstacles that prevent us from continuing on our self development journeys (whether they be internal or external). Only once we comprehend the true reasons why can we make substantial progress and accomplish our deepest desires! Thank you for the brilliant reminder – keep up the great work!

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi, Holly, That’s true. When we have a plan to achieve success through personal development plan, it is also important to not only focus for the results, but also the obstacles. There is a great chance that we will at least fall into one of the mindset traps before reaching the goal. I think tt is natural for us as human to experience failure, so I hope we can rise again after realizing what may create the pitfall in our path to reach the goal.

      Thanks for your compliment and good luck too!

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  15. Kaewebb1

    First of all, YOUR SITE WAS EVERYTHING I NEEDED!!!! As a couple, we have been working really hard on being positive in everything we do and implementing “The secret” aka the law of attraction. Honestly, we have steered away from this just a tad so I reading your “25 mindsets that will make any personal development FAIL” (btw I don’t think you meant to put an “s” at the end) put our minds back where they needed to be! I saw we started to show some qualities that we were leading us to failure so now we must hop back on track, get our mind right, and really change things!!! We will be frequent visitors to your site!! Thank you for your inspiration. I hope this touches many other people as well!

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hello Kae :) Wow thanks I glad this post and my site can be helpful for you both. There are so many mindsets that will be harmful to our personal development, and everyone has at least one of them. A correct mindset is really powerful to ensure your success in personal development :)

      25 mindsets that will make any personal development FAIL.

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  16. Theresa Langat

    This is a great site. This seems to me like it would be the place to go when you need a little extra motivation. I’ve been looking for some motivation all day and I’ve finally found it in your site. I especially love the quote that you used for the homepage. Keep up the good work and I can’t wait to see what else you are going to have for us.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Theresa, Thanks for the compliments. Look forward to your visit again next time :)

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  17. Michel

    Wow, I didn’t know that there were so many different types of mindset. As I read through them I recognize some of them in myself and that is quite scary.

    The hardest part about mindset is changing it and this takes daily work on yourself and dedication.

    I have to stop myself when I think negative thoughts, and change them around to positive ones. I am sure with some perseverance, I can only improve, and I feel I have improved in comparison to a few years ago.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Michel, yes I’m also surprised myself to find this many mindset. I really agree with you. It’s hard to change ourselves initially. We will need some time to finally change to a better self.

      It is good that we at least realize what should be improved and changed first :) That means, we have self-honesty. Let’s work our best to improve ourselves :)

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  18. Peter

    Hello Alexander I really liked the what you said, when you said “You should focus more on changing yourself, not changing the world around you” to me that summed up the entire mindset concept right there. Work on yourself to change the world around you. Don’t expect the world to change for you. If things aren’t working the way you want. Change the way you see them, Change what they ‘mean’ to you. Everything only ever means what YOU think it means. It’s your belief that determines your world. I enjoyed your post very much :)

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Peter. You hit it very right :) This is about personal development, so it makes sense that we should focus the change on us, on our own self, not on the environment and surrounding people. Our belief and passion are important factors to determine the success too :) Thanks for your comment.

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  19. Dinh

    Thanks for sharing this informative article on the 25 Mindsets that will Make Any Personal Development Plan FAIL.
    It pretty much covers every mindset that can make you fail. I tend to procrastinate and am working on it to improve myself for success.
    It’s hard to realize what your mindset is sometimes unless someone tells you or you think about it. Knowing that information will help you develop a plan to succeed rather than fail.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      You’re very welcomed Dinh. Procrastination is also one of my biggest weakness here :) I try hard to get rid of it. However, it has already make a deep root within my personality so it is not easy, but I’ll try my best.

      Yes you are right. Sometime, we need to listen from other listen to determine whether our mindset become the hindrance to our personal development. Thanks for sharing too :)

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  20. Iza Grek

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    Hi Debra

    I am in the process of reconditioning my mind and really to not want to continue in the job I am doing right now, next year.

    Unfortunately money pays the bills and no matter the discomfort of the comfort zone, the mind and the fear of the unknown are always two major obstacles.

    please comment on my blog

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hello, sorry I need to remove your link. I wish you the best for your effort to recondition your mind. Hope you can avoid the mindset traps I’ve listed above :)

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  21. Darren

    You have certainly covered it all in this in-depth article on mindsets that will hold you back in life. We’re all guilty of suffering from any number of these at any given time. I’m a big believer in LOA and watching your thought patterns, and your post is one of the most comprehensive elaborations of what each mindset it and how it can affect your life.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Darren. Thanks for the compliment. I have some intererest in LOA and maybe I should check if you have some course or blog about it :) Yes I’ve tried to cover all the possible mindset traps so we can plan a counter attack to it :)

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  22. Debra

    I can’t believe all the information you got in this post. I am certain that each and every one of us falls into one of those minds sets at one time or another in our lives. When you see it written out it seems to sink in better.

    A great post, we all need to keep striving for the things we would truly like our lives to represent.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Debra, yes you are right. I believe everyone is not perfect and has experienced at least one of the mindset trap. Continue striving for the better future don’t forget to keep motivated with inspiration :)

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  23. roamy

    Hello
    Some people set out to do things, to achieve things then they fail without knowing why they failed.i feel honoured to have found your site and be able to read some reasons of fails that l did not know of.
    l will try and have the mindset you have explained so well and l hope l will learn everything from each and every one of the 25.
    Will let you know at a later stage how everything goes on thanks so much.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Roamy, yes I agree with you. There is a time when I try to make a personal development plan and failed in the end. I didn’t know why it failed at that time.

      I finally found the answers when I did some research. Two of the deadliest mindset traps for me is the ‘weak of passion’ and ‘everything looks fine’. Passion and inspiration are popped out as many of the counter plan against most of the mindset traps.

      I hope everything is well than. Good luck!

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  24. Matilda

    You’ve made quite a thorough assessment of failure-prone mindset. Among them I think the combination of ignorance and arrogance is the most deadly.

    People who are the most ignorant are often the ones the most arrogant, and the arrogant people forever remain ignorant. As they are arrogant, they don’t think there is anything they can learn from others, and as they refuse to learn from others they are unable to acquire new knowledge and find new perspectives.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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    1. Alblue (Post author)

      Hi Matilda. Wow thanks for sharing your opinion.

      As for me, my deadliest mindset traps are the ‘weak passion’ and ‘everything looks fine’ mindset. Those two mindset make me failed a certain personal development plan some years ago.

      I also agree with you that arrogance and ignorance can be dangerous in the long-term, because we think we know the best to reach our goal, but actually we just walk in the darker path. When it turned out to be failed, we will get discouraged heavily.

      Thanks for reading too :)

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